Some of the kindest souls I know
have lived in a world that was
not so kind to them.
Some of the best human beings
I know, have been through so much
at the hands of others, and they still
love deeply, they still care.
Sometimes, it's the people who have been
hurt the most, who refuse to be hardened
in this world, because they would never
want to make another person feel
the same way they themselves have felt.
If that isn't something to be in awe of,
I don't know what is.
Abandon the urge to make life easy.
We don't need life to be easy, we need
it to be meaningful. The simple road
and the road to growth are often not
the same. Our attitude towards pain
has to change. Once we accept that
everything happens for our spiritual
growth, we flow with the tide rather
than fight against the currents.
In the midst of winter,
I found there was, within me,
an invincible summer.
Numbness or apathy isn’t the absence
of feelings, but rather a response
to being overwhelmed by too many
feelings... this is a form of dissociation.
Any of y'all find yourself
just checking out when you’re
overwhelmed, hurt, stressed, etc?
Apathy or numbness are perfect examples
of a little trauma response we refer to as
"dissociation". This happens when our
emotions become so overwhelming
that our brain literally shuts off to them or
checks out completely, leaving us to feel
very little, nothing or completely empty.
This is a protective measure for those of us
who have experienced trauma. It's not always
negative in that sometimes this coping
mechanism can help us get through the thick
of a crisis. When it becomes detrimental is
when the numbness continues on and we are
unable to process our emotions, thus leaving
them pent up and unresolved.
If you find yourself stuck in this situation,
therapy, processing & self care are of the
utmost importance. Just because you
can't feel it doesn't mean it's gone away.
It’s important to remember that.
When you know how to listen
everybody is the guru.
FOR THE WILDEST MYSTERY I KNOW
Fall for someone
with an air of mystery
and wildness in their bones,
but with the kindest eyes
and a thousand beautiful stories
woven into their soul.
My Love Languages Are When
• People ask questions
instead of assuming
• People honor my boundaries
• People accept responsibility
for their actions
• People respect our differences
• People are kind
• People take care of themselves
• People are authentic
• People apologize verbally and correct
their behaviors in the future
When you stop participating in
dysfunctional or unhealthy behavior
and patterns in your family system,
they might begin to see you as the
problem, as the villain, or as the one
abandoning them. The person who
dislodges and shakes up status quo
is often mistaken for the above,
instead of seen as the catalyst
for healthy change and healing.
They might get it twisted, but it's
important you don't.
Systems lovveeeee status quo.
Even when status quo is unhealthy,
dysfunctional, painful, awful, etc.
It's not because we love that stuff,
but because familiarity is ease.
When a person steps out,
the system will start to shake.
I always describe family systems
as a machine with screws in it,
and once a screw dislodges with enough
significance the wheels start to fall off.
It shakes so much that the rest of
the system will likely try to do everything
in their power to get that screw (you)
back in there as quickly as possible.
In this space, your work is to stay
committed to your decision.
It's to be confident in your path.
It's to accept that they might not be able
to see you clearly and that they might
mislabel you as selfish, a villain,
and the problem.
It's in this moment that you must
remind yourself that you can't actually be
a problem when you are a catalyst for
change, healing, and growth.
They might experience you that way,
but it's not something you must absorb.
It's something you must put a boundary
around. Let the system shake.
It can be uncomfortable for a long time,
maybe even forced, but your release is
something that sets you free and
is an invitation for their freedom as well,
if they'll take it. Head up.
Confidence forward. Permission to shake.
What do you really possess,
and what have you gained?
What pearls have you brought up
from the depth of the sea?
On the day of death,
bodily senses will vanish:
do you have the spiritual light
to accompany your heart?
When dust fills these eyes in the grave,
will your grave shine bright?
There will come a time in your life
in which you will have to accept that
your old ways cannot carry you any longer.
You will know that it is time to light fire
to the past, and shed your old self.
When the heaviness slows you to a stop,
a reinvention must occur.
There will come a time in your life
when you will realize that a new version
of yourself is trying to emerge.
You are allowed to cry and grieve the loss,
but you must also keep your eyes toward
what's next. It’s time to wipe the slate clean,
and start again. It's time to break the chains
of routine and expectation and fear.
It's time to become different and
stronger and clearer, at once new,
and yet more yourself than ever before.
It’s time to turn your
magic all the way on.
There is an awakening going on
right this moment. No longer do we need
to accept the narrative of "faulty genes" as our fate.
Emerging Science tells that the gene
we inherit aren't fixed; they are influenced
by their environment, beginning in utero
and continuing throughout our lives.
The groundbreaking discovery of epigenetics
tells a new story about our genes.
(Dr. Nicole LePera)
If I ever find a time machine,
I swear that I'll go back
to those moments in your life
when you felt all alone,
and I'll be the loving arms
you needed to hold you.
I may never get the chance
to change your past, but together
we can create a better future.
(John Mark Green)
What we once enjoyed
and deeply loved
we can never lose,
for all that we love deeply
becomes a part of us.
There are people you haven’t
met yet, who will love you
without you having to work for it.
They will see you and appreciate you,
for who you are.
They will be gentle with you
in really caring ways, because
they will recognize what vulnerability
has cost you in the past.
These are the ways I speak
to the loneliest parts of me.
The reminders that what was
modeled for us, that hurt us,
is not our future.
Cheers to each of you doing the
hard work that changes the way
we experience relationships.
And, to all of us looking for
these types of people and when offered,
being these types of people.
When setting out on a journey
do not seek advice from someone
who never left home.
The spirit of humanity is called upon to heal the wounds that centuries of fear, struggle, and separation have caused.
The crises humanity is facing are to be solved, not by inventions of the mind like new technologies, but by the awakening of the heart, one human at a time.
You are alive today because your soul wants to help humanity ascend to heart-based consciousness.
It is by going through your own challenges and finding the opportunity within them that you contribute most to humanity’s well-being.
Your contribution is not so much what you do as who you are.
It is your awareness that makes the difference.
As more of you invite heart-based consciousness into your lives, it becomes easier for others to make the transition to a new way of being: at peace with themselves, humanity, and nature.
Pushing yourself harder will not
result in healing any faster.
Healing doesn't happen through force,
pressure, perfectionism, or
disconnecting from your true
feelings and pretending to be okay
when you're very much not.
Healing happens through
compassion, patience, and belief in
yourself, even when it feels like
you're regressing. Healing happens
through reconnecting with your
authentic emotions, even when
they're not "good".
In hindsight you will understand.
When the veils of polarity vanish, when you return home in the divine space, when you remember who you are and have always been, you will understand.
You will look at all your challenges in this life, at all your struggles and all your resistance, and there will only be compassion and a deep love and respect for yourself.
Every time you come home after a human incarnation, you say: “Wow, how could I forget why all this happened to me, how could I fail to remember the divine virtues that I wanted to learn through dealing with these challenges? I feel like waking up from a dream.”
You are again and again amazed by how much the existence in blood and flesh as an adventurer on this Earth allows you to raise your vibration, to increase your light.
The presence of polarity, of good and evil, dark and bright, sadness and joy, despair and hope, well-being and pain, gives you the opportunity and forces you to choose.
In hindsight, you will be filled with the grace that lies within this breathtaking journey, no matter what your choices have been.
The pure fact that you have chosen an incarnation in these revolutionary and transforming times, tells me how courageous and strong you are.
In hindsight, you will honor yourself for this.
How about already honoring and loving yourself now, during this dream, while being in this body - in the midst of all these frightening challenges and thrilling manifestations?
How about waking up and bringing heaven to earth by allowing your knowing soul to merge with your lively body?
I would love to see your true and whole being NOW,
not only in hindsight.
You are more beautiful and more beloved
than you could ever dream of.
If you’re offended
by my boundaries,
then you’re probably
one of the reasons
I need them.
Even the most beautiful of wildflowers
can be considered weeds in the wrong gardens;
what another thinks of you does not
dictate your value.
The cost to our personal lives
of not healing the Mother Wound
means living our life indefinitely with:
- A vague, persistent sense that
"There's something wrong with me."
- Never actualizing our potential
out of fear of failure or disapproval.
- Having weak boundaries and
an unclear sense of self.
- Not feeling worthy or capable of creating
what we truly desire.
- Not feeling safe enough to take up space
and voice our truth.
- Arranging our lives around
"not rocking the boat.“
- Self-sabotaging when we get close
to a breakthrough.
- Unconsciously waiting for our mother’s
permission or approval before
claiming our own lives.
Your ability to be with your emotions
now is strongly influenced by your
parents' ability to be with your
emotions when you were a child.
Which emotions are you comfortable
with and which ones are you
Which emotions can you tolerate
and which ones can't you tolerate?
Which emotions feel safe and which ones
Do you see some emotions as good
and others are bad?
Do you feel comfortable sharing your
emotions with others or do you feel
How did your caregivers respond
to your emotions when you were little?
Here's the thing: your ability to be with
your emotions now is strongly influenced
by your parents' ability to be with
your emotions when you were a child.
We learn how to relate to emotions
from those we grow-up with.
We depend on our caregivers to be with
and respond sensitively to our emotions,
and to organise our emotional experience.
Without that sensitive emotional support
in childhood we cannot develop the ability
to tolerate and organise our own
emotional experience as adults.
The good news is that as adults we can
practice noticing and letting go of any
unhelpful beliefs we hold about emotions,
while also practicing sitting with
our emotions: allowing them to simply be
without needing them to be anything
other than what they are.
We can learn to change our relationship
We can learn to tolerate, accept,
and be with our emotion.
And we don't need to make these changes
all on our own; we can lean on books,
podcasts, online resources, YouTube videos,
friends, and therapists as guides and
supports through this process.
Thank you for all of your wonderful guestbook entries and emails with your new year wishes and your lovely feedback!
We are always happy to hear from you... 😍
Because so many of you have appreciated the DEAR INNER CHILD-Video, we have additionally created a longer & even more soothing audio version of it.
You can, for example, listen to it before falling asleep and let the loving & healing affirmations sink into your subconscious mind.
You can also find it in the menu section "Listen."
We are grateful for your love & loyalty! ❤️🙏
Have a peaceful Sunday!
Verena & Alex
The very worst,
is still a day.
So, you get through it.
Even if you're crawling
on hands and knees.
Yes, the day after that may suck,
and the one after, and the one after.
But they're just days.
You take them minute by minute.
And one day, I promise,
you'll find yourself
There is a strong relationship between
the building of our self-esteem, and our
willingness to own our buried feelings.
When we grant ourselves permission to
do the deeper work, we assert our right
to exist. We prove to our beaten down
inner child that they matter.
This energizes them, and builds their
sense of self. Therapy is not just a healing
journey. It is also a re-building journey.
Everytime we cry unshed tears and
express buried anger, we strengthen
and empower ourselves.
We roar ourselves into existence.
Don't get stuck in the idea that
you need to make ocean waves of change.
Some of the most profound change
on this planet, will come from
the tiniest ripple.
It's okay to feel sad right now.
It's okay to feel confused.
The world is undergoing massive trauma.
It's a shock to the system.
Yes, I believe a better world is coming.
But for now, give yourself permission
to grieve the world and person
you are leaving behind.
To those that feel exhausted, numb,
or overwhelmed by the idea of a new year
relentlessly ramping up:
I hope this year offers you more options
to enjoy life and be creative,
safe spaces to be vulnerable, and
opportunities to release stress and tension.
I hope you have the courage to receive
and accept those opportunities
when they find you.
carry your aliveness
around like flowers
and scatter those
across so many
miles and roads
pick them up
along the way
so they too
how to bloom
as though our
depended on it.
Because it does.
Habits I'm leaving in 2022:
- saying negative shit to myself
- breaking my own boundaries
- exposing myself to harmful energy
- allowing fear to guide me
- worrying about other people's opinion of me
- aligning with people who don't align with me
- expecting other people to make me happy
Dear inner child:
My New Year's resolution
is to be gentler with you.
(Dr. Anna Kress)
We wish you all a Wonderful and Happy New Year!
May your coming year be filled with gentleness, love, self-love, authenticity, vitality, magic, hope, creativity, and everything you and your inner child dream of… ❤️
2021 was undoubtedly one of the most challenging years collectively and individually.
For us, it was also a crazy and quite uncomfortable rollercoaster full of ups and downs on every level.
As you know, some months ago, we were enthusiastic about the idea of creating our own app and started to check the different app builders.
Since we both have no profound knowledge in this field, it wasn't easy orienting ourselves, especially because we had such a busy and challenging year.
But well, at least we have finally chosen a provider now, so we are working on it… 😊
We will keep you informed!
During the holidays, we worked on another creative project.
Several followers asked us to create a meditation or video for the inner child.
Of course, this theme is very dear to us because it is an important key on our healing journey, so we are happy to present you with the result.
It's a beautiful way to reconnect with the inner child because it combines atmospheric music, stunning videos, and our voices… 😍
May these visual healing affirmations provide you and your inner child with unconditional love, protection and healing.
inside of you
is an inner child,
an innocent and
lovable kid with
an open heart
and a free spirit.
Become loving parents
to your inner child,
the best mum and dad
you can find
the mum and dad
you have always
Much love from us both ❤️
Verena & Alex