to being a
free will) can
be used for
beneficial to all
Patriarchal capitalist culture works hard to
convince us the world is like a pointillism painting.
That each of us is a separate dot on the canvas
and any connectedness - a mirage.
I wonder how much of the world would be healed
if we remembered that we are watercolor -
we have never been and will never be separate.
May every part of you be touched
by peace, healing, and freedom.
During trying or uncertain times, a
powerful way to re-channel your
concern, frustration, annoyance,
stress, or fears, is to transmute
what you're feeling into altruism
and compassion - for yourself,
those around you, and for the
Breathe deep through what you're
taking in and processing.
Limit the amount of information
you take in.
Give your nervous system rest.
Remember who you are and your
Not sure about it?
Be medicine wherever you can,
A peaceful mind is a powerful mind.
As I look back on my life,
there is one thing I have
abuse of power.
Abuse of parental power,
abuse of economic power,
abuse of spiritual power,
abuse of political power.
I don't care if it comes from the
right, or the left, or the centre.
Abuse of power is ALWAYS a
crime against humanity.
And there is no chance that
we will heal the rifts between us,
or co-create the inclusive world
I long for, until it
Sending love and prayers to Ukraine ❤️🙏
Meditation is a slow melt into Love.
i do not want to have you
to fill the empty parts of me
i want to be full on my own
i want to feel so complete
i could light a whole city
i want to have you
cause the two of
could set it on fire
When we're talking about
self trust we're talking
about your inner child
being able to trust your
adult self to be the
protective, wise, loving
parent they never had.
Our inner children have
heard enough "talk"
without follow through &
It's time to finally show
them they are the most
important thing in the
The most beautiful and profound emotion
we can experience is the sensation of the mystical.
It is at the root of all true science.
That deeply emotional conviction of the presence
of a superior reasoning power which is revealed
in the incomprehensible Universe
forms my idea of God.
SIGNS OF UNPROCESSED ANGER
Becoming overly affected and holding on
to criticism and inconveniences
for long periods of time.
Struggling to let things go.
2. Sudden tantrums & going from 0 to 100:
Having outbursts from seemingly nowhere,
going from calm to intense anger
in a split second.
3. Misplaced anger:
Getting frustrated and snapping at people
unnecessarily, even if they've done nothing
to upset you before.
4. Disrespectfully expressing anger:
Letting your anger take control of you and
influence your behavior due to
being inexperienced with properly
communicating your anger.
I encounter 2 types of people in my work
in helping others overcome social anxiety.
The first kind are people who struggle with
active anger, and the second kind struggle
with passive anger.
Those in the active category over-identify
with their anger. They don't express their
anger during the situation - due to their
anxiety making them conflict avoidant,
but they do express it when they're alone
or to friends and family.
The anger consumes them, and they start
trying to bring up old memories and
unrelated issues to justify and fuel
their anger. It becomes so blinding and so
tiring that they decide to shove it away
and never look at it again.
Those around them might tell them
they're overreacting and behaving terribly
which makes them ashamed and validates
their decision to bury their anger.
Those in the passive category abandon
their anger as soon as they feel them.
They're highly conflict avoidant,
even within themselves.
They have trouble accessing their anger
and often think of themselves as someone
who doesn’t harbor anger of any kind
in general. But that doesn't mean their anger
doesn't exist - their anger now just influences
their behaviour from their shadow side.
People in this category often find themselves
in depressive cycles, apathy, and struggling
to find the energy to get anything done.
While both types are seemingly so different
on the outside, the core issue is the same.
They fail to process their anger.
They let their anger consume them or
they remain wilfully ignorant.
They judge themselves for their anger.
And as a result, they end up exhibiting
similar symptoms - Hypersensitivity,
unexpected tantrums, and the like.
The cycle is vicious. We like to hold on to
emotional patterns that we're familiar with
even when they so obviously sabotage us.
But the first step to breaking out of them is
identifying them in the first place.
Which category are you in?
Never fear the shadows,
they simply mean there's a light
shining somewhere nearby.
(Winnie the Pooh)
You don't have to hide yourself,
because there's nothing wrong with you.
You were not born to be like the imaginary
people you see on TV and in magazines.
You were not born to emulate your parents
and friends. You were born to be you.
That's it. The complete you, with all the
cracks and imperfections.
Present yourself to this world, as you are.
Move through your life with freedom and
soar beyond those voices that want to
keep you down. The absolute greatest
thing you can ever be is yourself.
So please, no more hiding.
Let's see what you've got.
In the stress and complexity of our lives,
we may forget our deepest intentions.
But when people come to the end of their life
and look back, the questions that they
most often ask are not usually,
“How much is in my bank account?” or
“How many books did I write?” or
“What did I build?” or the like.
If you have the privilege of being with
a person who is aware at the time of
his or her death, you find the questions
such a person asks are very simple:
“Did I love well?”
“Did I live fully?”
“Did I learn to let go?”
You know all those times you stood
against the wind and didn't break?
I just wanted to remind you
that you're really pretty great.
The only reason we don't open our hearts
and minds to other people is that
they trigger confusion in us that
we don't feel brave enough or
sane enough to deal with.
To the degree that we look clearly and
compassionately at ourselves,
we feel confident and fearless about
looking into someone else's eyes.
If I had to advocate anything
it would be to not take life so
seriously, and learn to laugh
especially at yourself.
One day you will wake up and
there won’t be any more time
to do the things you’ve always wanted.
Do it now.
I can usually read people pretty well,
view their character through conversations
and learn from the light in their eyes what
matters. I judge people by their hearts,
because if your heart doesn't stand out
first, don't wait for anything else to.
It never will. Pretty faces are nothing more
than masks made from temporary paper,
borrowed and disposable.
You don't get to keep that, in case
you didn't know. So, pour that beauty
into your heart. Top it off, where it stays
as long as you do and even
after you are gone.
there is a place
full of curiosity
but when the entire world
is designed to destroy it,
you have to fight
just to keep it alive,
yet i can think of
no better cause
to fight for.
You either walk inside your story and
own it or you stand outside your story
and hustle for your worthiness.
Before every session, I take a moment
to remember my humanity.
There is no experience that this man has
that I cannot share with him,
no fear that I cannot understand,
no suffering that I cannot care about,
because I too am human.
No matter how deep his wound,
he does not need to be ashamed
in front of me. I too am vulnerable.
And because of this, I am enough.
Whatever his story, he no longer needs
to be alone with it.
This is what will allow his healing to begin.
how many times has your mind
taken a small piece of uncertain
information and spun a story that
ends up consuming your thoughts?
By being yourself,
you put something
wonderful in the world
that was not there before.
When you tell someone who was
traumatized to stop living in the past,
focus on the positive, or just let go,
you're teaching them to stay
traumatized. These statements have
no impact on a persons nervous
system. Healing comes with invitation
to be honest as & where we are.
What a gift to no longer live in the past.
What pleasure to focus on the positive.
How nice to just let go.
Someone healing from trauma is working
with how their brain and body has adapted
to an experience that changes them.
If it was as simple as these toxic messages
above, we would choose it, and commit to it
with all we have. Some of us did,
and found we lost more time.
Healing happens in safe space where
a survivor is heard and believed and
finds the ways that their mind and body
can reprocess trauma.
When confronted with people judging
your experience, please remember this…
The truthfulness of your experience
is not determined by how it is measured,
judged, or perceived by another.
It stands alone, as lived experience.
People's opinions are often meaningless
reflections of their own filters and projections.
Nothing to do with the events that occurred.
Nothing to do with what was real, for you.
Just their story superimposed onto yours.
In fact, no one can take the real away
from you. No one.
It's yours and yours alone.
You could have grown cold,
but you grew courageous instead.
You could have given up,
but you kept on going.
You could have seen obstacles,
but you called them adventures.
You could have called them weeds,
but instead you called them wildflowers.
You could have died a caterpillar,
but you fought on to be a butterfly.
You could have denied yourself goodness,
but instead you chose to show yourself
some self-love. You could have
defined yourself by the dark days,
but instead through them
you realised your light.
Maybe you’re not being lazy.
Maybe your "laziness" is trying to
slow down out of a fight/flight response.
(Tyndal E. Schreiner)
I used to think I was the strangest person
in the world but then I thought there are
so many people in the world,
there must be someone just like me
who feels bizarre and flawed
in the same ways I do.
I would imagine her, and imagine
that she must be out there
thinking of me too.
Well, I hope that if you are out there
and read this and know that, yes,
it’s true I’m here, and
I’m just as strange as you.
I have a deeply hidden
and inarticulate desire
for something beyond
the daily life.