To be yourself in a world 

that is constantly trying to 

make you something else 

is the greatest accomplishment.


(Ralph Waldo Emerson)









When you dance to your own rhythm, 

people may not understand you; 

they may even hate you.

But mostly they’ll wish they had 

the courage to do the same.


(Sue Fitzmaurice)









Everything can be taken from a man 

but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - 

to choose one’s attitude in any given set 

of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.


(Viktor E. Frankl)









The real flex is holding space in your

heart for the unfolding of personal

and collective miracles, despite how

much you've been disillusioned over

the last few years.


I am aware that this will be hard

to even read for some.

I am aware that some of you reading this

are probably tired of "flexing".

If this is you, I send you much love

through what you are experiencing.

And I have to stand by the knowingness

that one of the initiations of our times is

to love beyond the disillusionment.

I often have people telling me:

"It's too costly to keep your heart open

in these times. The way I see it,

it's too costly not to. Bottling things up

is a luxury that my body is no longer willing

to afford… At the very least not long-term.

The price to pay for expecting personal and

collective miracles, is to be available for

disappointment and disillusionment.

And I’ll pay that price over and over again.

The price to pay for protecting the heart

from disappointment and disillusionment

is experiencing more of the same.

And I am no longer available for that.

What about you?

I think now more than ever before we need

hearts that are brave enough to hold

a bridge towards new potentials anchored

in compassion.


(Xavier Dagba)









In working with trauma for more than three decades, I have come to the conclusion that human beings are born with an innate capacity to triumph over trauma. 

I believe not only that trauma is curable, but that the healing process can be a catalyst for profound awakening - a portal opening to emotional and genuine spiritual transformation. 

I have little doubt that as individuals, families, communities, and even nations, we have the capacity to learn how to heal and prevent much of the damage done by trauma. 

In so doing, we will significantly increase our ability to achieve both our individual and collective dreams.


(Peter Levine)









We don't stop playing because we grow old; 

we grow old because we stop playing.


(George Bernard Shaw)









If I’ve learned anything from life, it’s that 

sometimes, the darkest times can bring us 

to the brightest places. I’ve learned that 

the most toxic people can teach us 

the most important lessons; 

that our most painful struggles can grant us 

the most necessary growth; and that the most 

heartbreaking losses of friendship and love 

can make room for the most wonderful people. 

I’ve learned that what seems like a curse 

in the moment can actually be a blessing, 

and that what seems like the end of the road 

is actually just the discovery that we are meant 

to travel down a different path. 

I’ve learned that no matter how difficult 

things seem, there is always hope. 

And I’ve learned that no matter how powerless 

we feel or how horrible things seem, 

we can’t give up. We have to keep going. 

Even when it’s scary, even when all of our strength 

seems gone, we have to keep picking ourselves 

back up and moving forward, because whatever 

we’re battling in the moment, it will pass, 

and we will make it through. We’ve made it this far. 

We can make it through whatever comes next.


(Daniell Koepke)









Once again,

the trees are

about to show

us the quiet

magic and

beauty of new



(S.C. Lourie)









Love and connection are such powerful needs 

that we will violate our own values in order to 

avoid losing both. This is often why we'll stay 

in the wrong relationship too long.

It's why we'll behave in ways we're not

proud of. It's why we'll tolerate more than

we should. It's also why we'll settle. 

We need love and connection to survive but 

if we do not live congruently with what 

we stand for, what we need, and with how 

we want to live our lives, we lose our

connection to ourselves. And when we do,

this hurts us more than losing our

connection to the other.


(Jillian Turecki)









When your inner world is on fire and you are burning for resolution, it is tempting to conclude that something has gone wrong, that you have failed, that you are flawed, and that you are unworthy of love. 

The questions are surging, the longing is unbearable, and you are still aching to find some relief. 

You are exhausted, but this is no ordinary exhaustion. It is sacred. 

It is the end of one world and the beginning of another. Stay close. 

In these moments, which may always arise in the heart of an open, sensitive human being, slow way down. 

Touch the earth, look up into the sky, listen to the song of the unseen. Dare to consider that things are not always as they appear. 

Today may not be the day for answers, but to finally let your heart break open to the vastness of the question. 

You are not a project to be solved and you were never unhealed. 

With eyes wide open, see that you could never lose the way. 

The unfolding of the heart is the work of a lifetime and there is no urgency on the path of love.


(Matt Licata)









Be silent and listen: have you recognized your madness and do you admit it? 

Have you noticed that all your foundations are completely mired in madness? 

Do you not want to recognize your madness and welcome it in a friendly manner? You wanted to accept everything. So accept madness too. 

Let the light of your madness shine, and it will suddenly dawn on you. 

Madness is not to be despised and not to be feared, but instead you should give it life...

If you want to find paths, you should also not spurn madness, since it makes up such a great part of your nature...

Be glad that you can recognize it, for you will thus avoid becoming its victim.

Madness is a special form of the spirit and clings to all teachings and philosophies, but even more to daily life, since life itself is full of craziness and at bottom utterly illogical. 

Man strives toward reason only so that he can make rules for himself. 

Life itself has no rules. That is its mystery and its unknown law. 

What you call knowledge is an attempt to impose something comprehensible on life.


(Carl Jung)









I'd rather regret the things

I've done than regret the

things I haven't done.


(Lucille Ball)










My heart needs rest,

my mind wants action.

My skin needs touch,

my soul wants air.

My curiosity needs different,

my comfort wants same.

My dreams need big,

my fears want small.

My love needs change,

my loss wants safe.


I'm stuck like this, all of

my days, in the hot coal

of human paradox,

hanging somewhere

between the illness and

the cure, between the

dust of yesterday and new

scents of tomorrow,

unfinished like all books,

writing new chapters of

myself with every bit

of ink around me.


Nobody tells you that

the messy Now and

terrible Unknown can

dare to be so beautiful.


(Andréa Balt)










The only thing 

that was ever wrong 

with me was my belief 

that there was something 

wrong with me.


(Glennon Doyle Melton)









Don't ignore that little part of you 

that tells you to keep going - 

the little voice in your head that's strong 

and believes in you even when 

you are doubting yourself. 

Don't run from that beautiful, 

vulnerable part of who you are. 

That's the part that will lead you to great 

adventures and magical opportunities. 

Let that little voice speak louder - 

you have too much passion and determination 

to hide your gift from the world. 

Run free, my love; unleash your beauty 

on this world, and don't stop until that 

burning fire inside your soul feels proud.


(Charlotte Freeman)











You tell me the same stories again and again, and I try everything to run away from the truth.

You have locked up all that was too much to feel immediately, held it until I am strong enough.

You wait full of compassion, knowing that I will come back one day.

I want to be one with you. I want to be whole.


You are my home, you carry my energies, you translate the forgotten language of my chakras.

You tell me where my blockages are, where I prevent myself from living freely, from expressing myself fully, from allowing the natural exchange of love like it is meant to be.

I want to honor you as my human temple.


You show me only what I can handle, not more, but also not one inch less. How can you be so wise? 

How can I get so separated from you, ignoring each of your clear caring signals, until it gets so loud that it can't be ignored anymore? 

I want to surrender to your intelligence and gentleness.


You make me feel alive, when I finally listen to your messages.

When I allow whatever it is you need to express, allow the old fears to release, the dark energies to come out of our system; then there is true transformation. 

Shiver, shake, cry, sob, scream. Freak out. Whatever you need.

Why does it first feels like dying to come back to life again?

I want to choose courage.


You work every single second with every single cell in total perfection for me.

You activate killer-cells whenever danger is in sight.

You give me space to make mistakes, learning through trial and error, testing my limits.

I want to enjoy your protection, and trust your ability to heal EVERYTHING.


You connect me with mother earth, enable me to experience the material world with all senses.

Too often I take it for granted, although it is a daily divine miracle. 

I want to celebrate my senses as a gateway to the here and now, like a present, adventurous child.


You are my best friend, my truest companion.

In good times and in bad times.

You never leave me, although I leave you, so often.

You welcome each return with open arms and a wide heart.


I want to stay. 











Be bold and mighty forces 

will come to your aid.


(Basil King)









life isn't made for 

perfect people.

it's made for those

who know how to

turn an impossible

situation into

something beautiful.

it’s made for fighters. 

dreamers. lovers.

and people

who won't

give up

even when life

feels impossible.


it's not perfect.

it's not easy.

but that's why

we’re made

so damn tough.


(Topher Kearby)









Truth is as straight as an arrow, 

while a lie swivels like a snake. 


(Suzy Kassem)









Children who were "parentified"

or made to take on adult roles before

developmentally appropriate may have a

tendency to take on responsibilities for others,

often feeling a sense of guilt when they 

place a boundary.

There may be a feeling of guilt when

boundaries are placed, even when in 

self-preservation, because the message 

received from caregivers was, "it is your job 

to support everyone else."

Placing boundaries, even when they ultimately

lead to our well-being, can be painful and

cause loss. They change our relationships and

relationship dynamics, and their is often grief

with that.

If you are grieving the loss or change of

relationships, especially if you were the one

who had to make the change, it was a

courageous and hard thing you did.


(Sarah Dergins)










Even in weak moments, you are

capable. Even when you feel like a

stranger to happiness, you will not

always be. Even when your mind

tricks you and tells you are not

worthy, you are, you are, you are.


(Harpreet M Dayal) 









Once you change a pattern, you will

be tested. You will inevitably meet a

situation that asks you to revert to the

a old pattern or implement the new one.

If it feels like a test, it's a good sign!

That means your old pattern is no

longer automatic.


(Dr. Vassilia Binensztok)









if the pain was deep

you will have to let it go

many times


(Yung Pueblo)









Whenever one person stands up and says, 

“Wait a minute, this is wrong,” 

it helps other people do the same.


(Gloria Steinem)









It's so damn

much right now.


We must stay informed, engaged,

helpful, while staying regulated enough

to tend to pets and children and clients and

partners and parents and friends and self.


We must grieve and rage at the senseless

death and destruction and the children in

underground shelters while seeking and

savoring the moments of joy and

tenderness in our own lives.


Mighty both/ands:

- Both engaged and distracted.

- Both informed and confused.

- Both defiant and terrified.

- Both grieving and coping.


It's so damn much right now.


We are powerless and powerful

at the same time.

- In what ways have you cultivated peace

inside of yourself today?

- In what ways have you advocated for the

needs or desires of another today?

- In what ways have you paused instead of

escalated today?

- In what ways have you chosen gentleness

instead of dominance today?

- In what ways have you relished safety



Let's continue to validate our experiences

and the experience of our fellow travelers.

We are profoundly interconnected.


(Dr. Alexandra Solomon)









I am washing my face before bed

while a country is on fire.


It feels dumb to wash my face

and dumb not to.


It has never been this way

and it has always been this way.


Someone has always clinked a

cocktail glass in one hemisphere as

someone loses a home in another,

while someone falls in love in the

same apartment building where

someone grieves. The fact that

suffering, mundanity and beauty

coincide is unbearable and



(Mari Andrew)









If you're feeling helpless, 

help someone. 


(Aung San Suu Kyi)









Peace can be made only by those 

who are peaceful, and love can 

be shown only by those who love. 

No work of love will flourish out of guilt, 

fear, or hollowness of heart, just as 

no valid plans for the future 

can be made by those who have 

no capacity for living now.


(Alan Watts)









Little boys feel just as much as little

girls. If we want men to be able to offer

emotional support to their partners,

their children, and each other, then we

need to encourage and support little

boys to understand and express their

emotions from the very beginning.


(Rachel Samson)









The kindest people are not born 

that way, they are made. 

They are the souls that have 

experienced so much at the hands of life, 

they are the ones who have dug 

themselves out of the dark, who have 

fought to turn every loss into a lesson. 

The kindest people do not just exist - 

they choose to soften where 

circumstance has tried to harden them, 

they choose to believe in goodness, 

because they have seen firsthand 

why compassion is so necessary. 

They have seen firsthand why tenderness 

is so important in this world.


(Bianca Sparacino)









Early-life trauma can

interfere with the rhythm

of the nervous system.

Being aware of one's

bodily sensations

and naming them,

in moments of emotional

intensity, builds one's

capacity to be with

emotions instead of

going into survival mode.


(Kerstin Hecker)