DAILY QUOTE
31.12.2019
what i’m leaving in 2019:
self-doubt, negative self-talk, self-sabotage,
shrinking for the comfort of others, settling,
fear of vocalizing my worth,
one sided connections,
wasting time.
(Alex Elle)
30.12.2019
We intellectualise how we ‘feel’ so much,
we forget that our feelings are actual
feelings felt in our body.
Tuning into our body, our stomach,
our heart, our head, are absolutely
essential for attuned, nurtured healing.
(Chanelle Sowden)
29.12.2019
Life changes every minute of every day. You lose friends. You gain friends. You realize your friend wasn’t ever really your friend, and that person you used to hate can make a really good friend. You look for love. You find love. You lose love. You realize all along that you’ve been loved. You laugh. You cry. You laugh so hard that you cry. You do this, you do that. You really wish you hadn’t done that. You then learn from that and are glad that you did. You have your ups. You have your downs. You see good movies. You see bad movies. You wonder if your life is just one big movie. You look at others and wish you were them. You then realize who they are and are glad that you’re you. You love life. You hate life. In the end you just find yourself happy to be living life, no matter what’s thrown at you.
(Mandy Hale)
28.12.2019
Some days
I am more wolf
than woman
and I am still learning
how to stop apologizing
for my wild.
(Nikita Gill)
27.12.2019
Healing comes in waves
and maybe today
the wave hits the rocks
and that’s okay,
that’s okay, darling
you are still healing
you are still healing.
(Ijeoma Umebinyuo)
26.12.2019
When I give, it does not come with strings.
I’m not keeping track of what you owe me.
When I give, I choose to do so
without ulterior motives.
I give because I know what it’s like
to be without.
To long for and be ignored;
to speak and not be heard;
to care for and have nothing returned.
When I give it’s because I know
the value in what I have in my heart.
And I refuse to let the world stop me
from sharing that.
But when things start being taken for granted,
when you no longer appreciate my sincerity,
I won’t switch, I won’t get angry,
and I won’t be spiteful.
I’ll just get smart, and change your role in my life.
Because when I give, I’m all in.
But when I’m done, there’s no turning back.
(Rob Hill Sr.)
25.12.2019
Things to not do this holiday season:
- choosing to spend time with family
at the expense of your mental health & sanity
- forcing yourself to go to any family events
that you don’t want to attend
- doing things you don’t want to do &
being around people you don’t want
to be around for the sake of “tradition“
- laughing off Uncle Jim’s mysognistic & racial slurs
- acting like we’re all a “family“ when there’s
an elephant taking a shit in the room
that no one wants to address
(Emma Zeck)
24.12.2019
In Iceland,
books are exchanged
on Christmas Eve,
then the tradition
is to spend the rest
of the night reading
and eating chocolate.
That sounds
absolutely perfect.
(Brooke Hampton)
23.12.2019
things you never need to feel
guilty about:
believing in yourself
expanding into your potential
letting go of what lowers your vibration
knowing your worth
(Spirit Daughter)
22.12.2019
- The Welcoming -
Let yourself relax into this moment.
Let yourself be held without any need to hold yourself up.
Let yourself meet the unknown.
It’s OK. It’s a place we don’t have to know with our mind.
What if there were angels all around you and you just couldn’t see them?
What if there was a love so vast that you could never be apart from it?
What if it was impossible for you to go anywhere where this love could not find you?
You are entering the Beauty not far from your heart.
It’s a place that embraces you as you are.
I trust that you will be met by a welcoming presence that knows you, and that meets you with a deeper love than you have ever imagined in this world.
May you know, without any doubt, the precious gift that you are.
And may you be welcomed by a presence so loving that all fear subsides.
(Michael Stillwater)
21.12.2019
Christmas.....
The holidays can be so beautiful. They can also be tough. For me, the past week has been full of as much pain as transformation, and it's reminded me that the holidays aren't happy for everyone.
Some of us are going through something tough, but we can't go through it freely because there are too many people around us. Some of us are alone, but we would prefer to have someone there. Some of us have traumatic memories associated with holidays, and the scars open up each time the occasion rolls around.
If that's you today, just know you're not alone. You're a human being, and that means there will always be some suffering mixed in with your joy. These moments are tough, but they're also opportunities to look within, to support yourself, to learn about what you need in tough times.
If you need space to heal, how can you respect your needs as much as you respect other people's expectations of you? If you're alone, how can you be a kind, loving friend to yourself? If you're feeling pain, how can you channel your emotions into art, into healing, into transformation? How can you honour what you're going through instead of trying to push it away? How can you not only survive but also thrive through this?
For all of you out there struggling right now, I won't say, "Happy Holidays." I'll say this: "You matter. You're not broken. You're stronger than you think." Don't forget.
(Vironika Tugaleva)
20.12.2019
There are people
who dislike you
because you do not
dislike yourself.
(Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie)
19.12.2019
There is often a close relationship between emotion and physical sensation.
Physical sensations in the body often co-occur with feelings.
Moreover, sensations of tightness and tension can develop as a defense against feelings.
As unexpressed feelings accumulate, a greater degree of muscular tension is necessary to keep them under wraps.
A child who is repeatedly punished for emoting learns to be afraid of inner emotional experience and tightens [armors] the musculature of her body in an effort to hold feelings in and to banish them from awareness.
Holding your breath is a further manifestation of armoring.
It is an especially common way of keeping feelings at bay, as breathing naturally brings your awareness down to the level of feeling.
(Pete Walker)
18.12.2019
It took me a long time to realize
that not everything in life
is meant to be a beautiful story.
Not every person we feel something
deep and moving with
is meant to make a home within us,
is meant to be a forever.
Sometimes, people come into our
lives to teach us how to love;
and sometimes, people come into our
lives to teach us how not to love.
How not to settle, how not to shrink
ourselves ever again.
Yes, sometimes people leave -
but that’s okay, because their lessons
always stay, and that is what matters.
That is what remains.
(Bianca Sparacino)
17.12.2019
The truth often makes
people who live in denial
highly uncomfortable.
It mirrors back to them
something that they are
unwilling to accept or
do not like in themselves.
Tell it anyways.
(Emma Zeck)
16.12.2019
Soul work is not a high road.
It's a deep fall into an
unforgiving darkness that
won't let you go until
you find the song that
sings you home.
(McCall Erickson)
15.12.2019
If you prefer smoke over fire
then get up now and leave.
For I do not intend to perfume
your mind's clothing with
more sooty knowledge.
No, I have something else in mind.
Today I hold a flame in my left hand
and a sword in my right.
There will be no damage control today.
For God is in a mood
to plunder your riches and
fling you nakedly into
such breathtaking poverty
that all that will be left of you
will be a tendency to shine.
So don't just sit
around this flame
choking on your mind.
For this is no campfire song
to mindlessly mantra yourself
to sleep with.
Jump now into the space
between thoughts
and exit this dream
before I burn
the damn place down.
(Adyashanti)
14.12.2019
Stereotypes aside, here are seven authentic signs of the free spirit:
1. You’re a rebel and non-conformist
2. You’re an innovator and dreamer
3. You thirst for truth
4. You have an inner “BS” detector
5. You welcome challenge
6. Your heart is your compass
7. “I will not be enslaved” is your unconscious motto
I’ll go more into depth below:
1. You’re a rebel and non-conformist
By nature, you’re a non-conformist.
You don’t like walking the path other’s set before you. You want to trailblaze your own destiny.
You instinctually fight against anyone’s attempt to put you in a box, contain you, suppress you, silence you, or numb you.
2. You’re an innovator and dreamer
As a free spirit, you’re not afraid to let your mind wander to new horizons and realities.
You have big ideas that may sound far-fetched or bizarre to others.
Being rejected for your goals, plans or inventions is a big thorn in your side.
Others can’t seem to get on the same page as you! You’re a visionary who always enjoys finding new ways of doing things differently than others.
3. You thirst for truth
How can a person be free when they’re living a lie? Or believing lies?
In your heart and soul, you long to find truth, both in everyday life and metaphysically.
The old aphorism “the truth shall set you free” is something you carry deep inside your heart. You are willing to be wrong and are open to many different explanations.
What is most important to you is what is real.
4. You have an inner “BS” detector
Part of that thirst for truth is the desire for authenticity - in yourself and in others.
You can smell bullshit from a mile away and it disturbs you.
How can you (or others) be free when deception and phoniness are running rampant? You despise playing roles and putting on masks and you can’t be around fake people for very long before the desire to run for the hills bursts like a howl out of you.
5. You welcome challenge
Life becomes dead and stagnant when there’s no challenge.
Although you may find it a bit scary and intimidating, being challenged is welcome by you as a free spirit.
You know, deep down, that to be free from inner and outer oppression you must grow.
And to grow, you must be challenged.
You don’t seek comfort or complacency.
You seek to feel and be alive.
You seek to transform into the highest version of yourself possible.
6. Your heart is your compass
Your heart is your compass and you direct your life accordingly.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re reckless, but it does mean that you’re always striving to do what you love - because when you accomplish this, you feel free.
Furthermore, you don’t just let what you’re passionate about sit on the back burner or fizzle away into oblivion, you find some way of incorporating it into your life.
Even if you have abandoned your passions, you become passionate about trying to reconnect with them. You want to live a life that you love and offer something to the world that you truly believe in.
7. “I will not be enslaved” is your unconscious motto
As a natural rebel, you seek to remove beliefs, ideologies, habits, careers, and people from your life that cause you to feel oppressed, and therefore enslaved.
You do this on both a physical and a metaphysical (or emotional/mental/spiritual) level.
You are attracted to people and paths that encourage the growth of your passionate spirit. You refuse to be tamed by the opinions or desires of others. You may be perceived as selfish, but deep down you know that you must respect and love yourself in order to share your gifts with the world.
If the beliefs, habits, and traumas within YOU are the source of your own suffering, you’ll try your utmost to free yourself from them. You realize that in order to be fully free, you must be comfortable and at home within yourself.
Therapy, self-exploration, inner work, and spiritual practice will all be methods by which you seek to liberate yourself from suffering.
Being a free spirit will become less about traveling the external world as it will be about traversing, and mastering, the inner landscape.
(Aletheia Luna)
13.12.2019
Honor yourself and your journey
by building healthy boundaries
in your life.
Invite and attract an environment of
encouragement, love and support.
With a clear intention and love
in your heart choose to no longer
accept toxicity.
What you allow is what will continue,
so choose to say “no more”.
Release the energy vampires,
the victims, the narcissists,
the inauthentic, the doubters,
the haters, the low vibrations,
and all those who do not respect
your energy, your journey,
your growth, and your love.
Invite vibrations and energies
that honor you, respect you,
support you, nourish you,
and love you.
Attract what you deserve.
Be love.
(Creig Crippen)
12.12.2019
All truth passes
through three stages.
First, it is ridiculed.
Second, it is violently opposed.
Third, it is accepted as
being self-evident.
(Arthur Schopenhauer)
11.12.2019
The whole planet is riddled with misplaced aggression. It’s more popular than strawberry cheesecake.
People are so overcome with repressed rage, that it simply has to leak out somewhere, often in the direction of innocents.
Sometimes it comes through as physical violence, and more often in the form of emotional abuse, passive aggression, scapegoating and persecution.
And none of this will change, until we learn how to deal with our unresolved emotions from an early age.
Until society normalizes the sharing of our woundedness, and normalizes techniques for healthy release.
Until we learn how easily humans are traumatized, and create conditions that prevent it.
We do this, and we change the world.
We don’t do this, and we are doomed to destroy each other (and our planet).
Because all that trauma forces us to repress our memories and dissociate from reality.
It compels us to choose paths that are not amenable to healing and wholeness.
It turns us into a splintered symphony of suffering. And in a splintered state, we can’t help but do damage to ourselves and others.
To break the cycle, we have to get to the roots of our aggression: our unresolved pain and anger.
We have to fully own what we are carrying.
We have to heal this humanity.
(Jeff Brown)
10.12.2019
We need more people
who are willing to demonstrate
what it looks like to risk and endure
failure, disappointment and regret -
people willing to feel their
own hurt instead of
working it out on other people,
people willing to own their stories,
live their values,
and keep showing up.
(Brené Brown)
09.12.2019
Carl Jung said that if you find the psychic wound in an individual or a people, there you also find their path to consciousness.
For it is in the healing of our psychic wounds that we come to know ourselves...
In the evolution of consciousness, our greatest problem is always our richest opportunity.
(Robert A. Johnson)
08.12.2019
If you want to end
your suffering
enter your pain.
(Robert Augustus Masters)
07.12.2019
BULLSHIT
Be prepared. The minute you decide to be yourself, to heal and to allow your true feelings, it will be there: BULLSHIT.
It will be transmitted by family members, so-called friends, acquaintances, colleagues, therapists, doctors, pharmacists, pseudo-spiritual teachers and all kinds of people who feel provoked by your decision.
They sense it in your presence, and it shows them what they lack.
In our society, it is normal to repress our feelings.
It is standard to play roles and put on masks.
The duties of an average life make it very difficult to get off the hamster wheel.
We can easily hide behind our busyness and all the distractions.
There seems to be no time and space to pause for a moment and sense into our body and heart.
But that’s a lie on a deeper level.
If we decide to live authentically and in resonance with our soul, to allow our vulnerability and face our wounds, things will magically start to change and shift; and we will find the necessary time and space.
Instead of putting our energy into toxic relationships, we will attract the right people into our lives: our tribe.
The universe wants us to be ourselves and to love ourselves; it wants us to feel and to heal.
Everything else is BULLSHIT.
But those who have lost the contact with their own souls and hearts will try everything to stop you and to convince you that you should also continue walking the comfortable, trodden and “safe“ path.
Every single time you believe them and follow their messages, it will throw you back on your new, individual, and courageous path.
That’s why I am writing this text.
I have been thrown back thousands of times because I felt unsure and searched for validation and support where only BULLSHIT was offered.
It’s an inevitable and sometimes even necessary part of every journey, but I want to be the voice of love and confirmation who applauds you for your courage to be yourself and to allow your true feelings.
I want to strengthen your decision and offer some clarity about what’s going on.
Please don’t give up and don’t believe them!
You wouldn’t believe how much BULLSHIT I had to and still have to hear on my own journey, how many lies I had to bear, and how much subtle but also open condemnation and resentment I had to endure, only because I decided to heal.
It took me many years to really trust my intuition, my gut feeling when I listen to someone or read something.
After countless and hurtful dis-illusions, I sense now immediately if someone is really on the challenging journey of healing and integrating his/her wounds and walks his/her talk or if it’s just some kind of abstract construct with the ultimate aim of repressing the truth.
The term “Energy Vampire“ is no joke.
It’s a reality, and you have to protect yourself from them categorically. They don’t want your best.
You shouldn’t take this personally; it has absolutely nothing to do with you.
They just want you to be like them, fit in, adapt, to repress your feelings, and at the same time, they want to suck some of your precious awakening vitality.
Deep down inside, they are utterly terrified of being confronted with their unconsciousness, vulnerability, emptiness, and darkness.
However, their concept can be wrapped in a quite reasonable and seductive packaging, because they put all of their energy in it.
They will try to convince you that all this suffering you go through, all the darkness you dwell in frequently since you stopped repressing, isn’t really necessary and that there is an easier way.
This can be anything, from taking the right pills, changing your mindset, focusing on the positive things in your life, going to hundreds of doctors because it seems unbelievable that your pain has no physical reason, treating yourself with some nice little drugs and distractions, or simply finally “leaving the past behind you and pulling yourself together."
All this is complete BULLSHIT.
There are also better suggestions, which can, of course, help.
But they can never be a substitute for the real work of going through the transformational fire of our real emotions.
For example, it’s great to meditate, repeat affirmations, practice yoga, tap meridians, go for barefoot walks, start juicing and detoxing, receive some Reiki-Energy, get a wellness-massage and so on and so forth.
But be careful: as soon as someone tells you that one of these things can be “THE“ salvation from all of your suffering, then even this is complete BULLSHIT.
It creates the illusion that you simply didn’t get it yet but that there is an easy and comfortable way.
This is not true.
Healing from all kinds of trauma, self-discovery and self-realization are always challenging, difficult, and painful.
Anyone who says something else just hasn’t gone the whole way and is lying to himself.
The blah-blah messages, especially of the pseudo-spiritual community, seem to stem from an endless ocean of fake-gentleness, fake-positivity, fake-mindfulness, fake-enlightenment, fake-overcoming of the demonized ego, and other BULLSHIT, only to avoid the truth of what is.
Some years ago, I wouldn’t have been confident enough to say something like that, but now I am.
And that’s what it’s all about: be yourself, love yourself, trust in the self-regulating forces of your body and soul, allow your feelings, open your heart, be honest, live your truth and go on, through the darkness, through the suffering and the pain, even if it seems that it will never end.
That’s BULLSHIT: It WILL end.
I promise you.
You will come out of this fire stronger and wiser and more compassionate and loving than ever.
You will still be on your never-ending journey, but it will be a less demanding one, and you will have the natural longing to serve others with what you have learned by your own real experience.
You will spread the unconditional love that you have found in your heart beneath all the layers of repressed pain.
Don’t believe the BULLSHIT.
Don’t give up.
You are on the right track.
(Verena)
06.12.2019
It
was
fucked
up.
Yeah, you're allowed to say
your childhood was fucked up.
You don't have to convince me
to believe you.
I fucking believe you.
(Anne Carly)
05.12.2019
If in early life
you were betrayed
by the people
that were supposed
to protect you,
one of the most
important things to
practice is doing
the opposite
with yourself.
Bit by bit.
Day by day.
One act of kindness
at a time.
One boundary set
after another.
All acts of self-respect
repeated indefinitely.
(Chani Nicholas)
04.12.2019
I like men
brave enough
to be vulnerable.
(Scott Stabile)
03.12.2019
Growing hurts. It’s dark,
it’s dirty... it’s fucking hard!
But if you want the change,
you’ve got to do the work.
There’s no way around it.
Face your shit.
Let it break you open.
Don’t run this time.
Look that shit in the face and
choose something different.
(Brooke Hampton)
02.12.2019
You are a real thing
in a world held together
by thumbtacks and
plastic people.
You will struggle to be
heard with your genuine
birdsong voice amongst
the drone of machines.
This is why you need to learn
to amplify yourself, my love.
The world needs more
like you and it desperately
needs your tragic, beautiful,
authentically human voice.
(Nikita Gill)
01.12.2019
Keep going.
That’s all you have to do, ever.
You really don’t have to be amazing,
or fierce or beautiful
or successful or good.
Just keep going, please.
Slowly is fine.
Crawling is fine.
No feeling is final.
Except hope.
(Glennon Doyle Melton)