When trauma or emotional pain are unrecognized it often begins to show up in our dreams.


Our dreams, nightmares and night terrors are hard to interpret, but the underlying emotion is often somewhere in our bodies during our waking hours.


For some, what happens in their dreams serves as a little flag from their internal world that there are parts of them that are stuck in pain/trauma and need help.


For many, these distressing dreams are overwhelming, confusing, embarrassing (if you become physical or yell during your dreams/night terrors) and exhausting.


If you experience any of these and have experienced trauma in your life time it could very well be that the two are connected.


The good news is that many people see a reduction or a complete stop to intense nightmares or night terrors after healing their old emotional wounds (I highly recommend inner child work for this). If you experience the intensity of trauma related dreams, you are not weird and you’re not alone.


(Colie Taico)









What am I in the eyes of most people - a nonentity, an eccentric, or an unpleasant person - somebody who has no position in society and will never have; in short, the lowest of the low. 

All right, then - even if that were absolutely true, then I should one day like to show by my work what such an eccentric, such a nobody, has in his heart. That is my ambition, based less on resentment than on love in spite of everything, based more on a feeling of serenity than on passion. 

Though I am often in the depths of misery, there is still calmness, pure harmony and music inside me. 

I see paintings or drawings in the poorest cottages, in the dirtiest corners. And my mind is driven towards these things with an irresistible momentum.


(Vincent van Gogh)









I wish you’d stop

"protecting me from

the truth"

and just tell me

what’s going on

especially if the

truth directly 

impacts me.


(Anne Carly)









i am no longer interested in

entertaining fantasies. relationships

where denial is prioritized over truth

& familiarity is prioritized over evolution.

anyone can be attractive & I have felt

butterflies for many. but can you hold

my heart and the dichotomies that 

I embody? can you make space 

not only for my light, 

but for my darkness? 

have you made room for yours?


can you love me as i learn what 

it means to step into myself?

i don’t want to feel chemistry because

many times chemistry is rooted 

out of trauma. i want to feel safe.

i want to feel at peace. 

i want to feel secure. 

i want to know & feel that 

you’ve got me & i’ve got you - 

over everything.


(Emma Zeck)










As long as people are unable to

integrate the memories of the trauma,

fragments of the experience keep 

returning as intense emotions, images,

bodily sensations and as irrelevant behaviors.


(Pierre Janet)









There is so much suffering in the world. 

Sometimes I wonder how the earth holds it all. 

And then I see someone who has endured so much 

find their way through the pain tunnel

to a truly better place. 

I am not talking about the bypassing of

the pain-body. I am talking about the courageous

working through of the emotional debris.

And then I marvel at the human spirit,

which creates whatever tools it needs 

to overcome the odds and find its way home. 

Wow. Humans. Wow.


(Jeff Brown)









Your situation does not need to be

the worst situation in the world

in order to give yourself permission

to feel, to grieve, to notice.


(Vienna Pharaon)











You might not need to buy another self-help book, 

attend another training, take another course,

read another list, hear more advice,

learn another healing method or bookmark

another instagram post as much as you need to 

listen to, trust, and practice everything

you already know.


(Lisa Olivera)








you build inner peace exactly for moments

like these, so that even when things around

you feel turbulent, there is a reservoir of calm

and clarity at your service. a space within you,

untouched by the storm, from where you can

think, feel, breathe, and make good decisions.


(Yung Pueblo)









What if the secret to life

is not to be happy


But to be real


And the truly amazing thing is

to have our real feelings

accepted & understood


(Chanelle Sowden)







Everyone wants to have 

a relationship with their parents.

It is one of our most primal needs.

So if someone tells you they no longer

speak to a parent, don’t question 

their decision. Trust that they have

a very good reason.


(Heidi Green)









When I look into the eyes of an animal 

I do not see an animal. 

I see a living being. 

I see a friend. 

I feel a soul.


(Anthony Douglas Williams)









Do you encourage and

support yourself the way

you encourage and 

support others?

If not, maybe at some point

you decided that your needs

don’t matter. It’s time to

unlearn that, beloved one.


(Nanea Hoffman)









social distancing does not mean 

energetic distancing.


we are all still connected.


(Spirit Daughter)









I give myself permission to feel all of my feelings.

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(Alex Elle)










If you are reading this,

you have survived 

your entire life

up until this point.

You have survived traumas,

heartbreak, devastation,

the different phases of life.

And here you are.

You go motherfucker.

You are awesome.











Repeat after me:


"I honor the exhaustion

in my body and 

give myself permission 

to just be 

while my nervous system 

adapts to the changes 

in the world."


(Colie Taico)









Let’s not for a moment think that 

we have to show up in any kind 

of perfect way in order to show up 

for another right now.

Let’s not forget that it has always been 

our raw and honest heart that touches

the raw and honest heart of another.

We don’t need perfection right now.

We need real humans being brave enough

to share the beautiful and full range

of their humanity.


(Silvy Khoucasian)









When you have a traumatic childhood,

you never get the chance to enjoy your innocence.

You are forced to grow up quickly and act as

your own parent. In adulthood, it’s important

to intentionally incorporate sources of comfort,

safety, and play throughout the day.

This could mean getting a pet to snuggle with,

watching videos of cute animals,

drawing in a coloring book, taking a few moments

to listen to soothing music, having a bubble bath,

dancing in your room - anything which represents

the innocence you should have experienced

and never had. Build a habit of

incorporating these into your daily routine.

You may never regain your childhood but

you can at least enjoy all the good

you deserve in the present moment.


(Shahida Arabi)









Give your heart to the

soul that loves your

madness and sees

beauty in your chaos.

Not the idiot that tries

to force you 

to be normal.


(Brooke Hampton)








seeking light.


I am drawn to the light in others.

It is how I know I am not alone.

To be a seeker of the light is to

be connected to the very truth itself -

the way out of the darkness is

when we can look across the table

and find our face in another’s.

When we let our stories exist,

we invite others to see themselves

more clearly in a space where pain,

struggle, stunning resilience and belonging

are not unique to just one person.

They live in each of us.

Proving we are not on our own.

I heal. And you heal.

And when we heal, the world heals with us.

An open heart is the key that unlocks hope’s reach.

The sun is here within you, now open your eyes.


(Danielle Doby)









None of us are born as passive generic blobs waiting for the world to stamp its imprint on us.

Instead we show up possessing already a highly refined and individuated soul.


Another way of thinking of it is:

We're not born with unlimited choices.


We can't be anything we want to be.


We come into this world with a specific, personal destiny. We have a job to do, a calling to enact, a self to become. We are who we are from the cradle, and we're stuck with it.


Our job in this lifetime is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.


(Steven Pressfield)










Trauma survivors crave honesty and authenticity.

We’ve had to fight for our ability to think clearly and know who we are. It’s cost us greatly.

We aren’t willing to engage with those who do not honor that.


Many who have experienced trauma, have had to exchange much of what should have been normal life experiences, for healing. That means we missed the fundamentals of growing up in healthy, affirming, honest environments. We’ve spent years doing the work to reparent our inner child, and give them what they deserved. This is living honestly and authentically.


Inauthenticity goes hand-in-hand with wearing a mask, and not experiencing wholeness of self. It makes sense when you’re wrestling with trauma, to crave a different narrative. Those who have done this work, see life differently. The lens is shaped by hard life experience, capped off with beautiful release… Redemption for your pain, honor for your heartache. This is one of life’s greatest gifts. It’s meant to be cherished. Hold it tight, because the gift of being handed back your true self can not be exchanged. 


You are never responsible for someone else to see and understand the work you’ve done. You are responsible to protect the work you’ve done fiercely. It cost you, and someone else’s lack of vision is not to be held in that safe space.


Celebrating all who have looked the lies directly in the face and said “bullshit.“. Then, chose self love. 


Be your authentic self. Be brave, bold and honest.

Don’t stop or shift your desire to be known.

It’s beautiful and worthy of love. 


(Nate Postlethwait)









𝙉𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙊𝙛 𝙐𝙨 𝘼𝙧𝙚 𝙄𝙢𝙢𝙪𝙣𝙚


It’s going to be okay. 

It really is.


We will face this situation together with love, humour and patience. 

We will weep together, we will laugh together. 

We will discover togetherness in our apartness.


And the worst of it will end one day. 

And we will have learned so much by then. 


We will now be called to face very difficult feelings inside of us. 

Fear. Grief. The loss of an old way of life. Our devastated plans.

We will learn to face ourselves. Nowhere to run, nowhere to hide.

Nowhere to go except within.


A sacred quarantine.


We will learn to face our boredom. Our restlessness. The part of us that wants to be somewhere else, with someone else, doing something else, having some other experience, in some other Now, living in some other life. 

We will let go of the wonderful future we had planned. 

We will let the fantasy future die, release it, and grieve it. 

We will return to the solidity and warmth of the present. 


We will make the present into our home.

We will begin again, here, build a new house on new soil.

We will explore a new way of life. 

Strange, at first. But full of possibility. 

Slower. Kinder. Quieter.


We will talk to each other honestly about death, and life, and impermanence, and how we feel about all the changes that have come to us and our loved ones.

We will learn to value life a little more.

Yes, perhaps we will learn to value life a little more.


And live with our hearts cracked slightly open to the elements.

And lean into uncertainty, and find our salvation there. 


None of us are immune to change.

To rupture. To the shattering of old, familiar forms.

This is the way of things, this has always been the way of things.


From this perspective, nothing has gone wrong. 

Crisis simply means “turning point”, and none of us are immune from the turning.


The breaking of the old makes way for the birth of new.

It has always been this way.


Love. Humour. Patience. With these things, we will come through.

Stronger than before. Renewed. Ready.  


I am sending you all my love, my friends. 


(Jeff Foster)









If you feel sad in this time,

then feel it.

If you feel grateful in this time,

then feel it.

Let’s not shame each other for

feeling different things.

If you feel you need to grieve,

or you feel you need to laugh,

or if you need to keep busy or

you need to spend more time

daydreaming then that is more

than fine. Let’s just not shoot

each other down because we

all have different ways of dealing

with the present stress. 

Mental health is what matters.

Let’s just support each other as

we all tend to our mental health

in different and personal ways.


(S.C. Lourie)









Please, whatever you do -

just leap towards tenderness.

Leap towards connection.

We are all afraid to say too much,

to feel too deeply, to let people know

what they mean to us.

But caring is not synonymous with crazy.

Expressing to someone how special

they are to you will make you vulnerable.

There is no denying that.

However, that is nothing to be ashamed of.

There is something breathtakingly beautiful

in the moments of smaller magic that occur

when you strip down and are honest

with those who are important to you,

when you choose to slam your heart into

those who ignite something within it,

when you express. So, express.

Express, express, express.

Open yourself up, do not harden yourself

to the world, and be bold in who,

and how you love.

There is courage in that.


(Bianca Sparacino)









Things I wish they taught in school:


- how to persevere through pain and 

still keep hope alive

- how to give in to grief without losing yourself

- how to truly let go

- how to nourish your spirit

- how to navigate heartbreak in a healthy way


(Nikita Gill)









Never apologize 

for showing feeling. 

When you do so, 

you apologize for the truth.


(Benjamin Disraeli)

























You can be both

mysterious and raw.

Lovingly open 

and boundaried.

Scared to the bones

and deeply trusting.

And, you can be

simultaneously bold

and gentle

as you continue on


Energy is fluid.

The river bends

and allows

for all of it.


All of it.


(Victoria Erickson)