DAILY QUOTE

30.09.2021

Stay close to anything that

makes you glad you are alive.

(Hafiz)

29.09.2021

We live on a blue planet 

that circles around a ball of fire 

next to a moon that moves the sea, 

and you don’t believe in miracles?

(Marteria)

28.09.2021

Not listening to the inner voice leads the body

to try to communicate in other ways,

through stomachaches and headaches and

illnesses and even disease for example.

Not to mention that the universe

will try to magnify the inner voice

through your external reality

so you can no longer run

from your own inner truth.

(Teal Swan)

27.09.2021

I never lose.

Either I win

or I learn.

(Nelson Mandela)

26.09.2021

I will not die an unlived life

I will not live in fear

of falling or catching fire.

I choose to inhabit my days,

to allow my living to open me,

to make me less afraid,

more accessible,

to loosen my heart

until it becomes a wing,

a torch, a promise.

I choose to risk my significance;

to live so that which came to me as seed

goes to the next as blossom

and that which came to me as blossom,

goes on as fruit.

(Dawna Markova)

25.09.2021

If you can sit down quietly and listen compassionately to that person for one hour, you can relieve a lot of his suffering.

Listen with only one purpose: to allow the other person to express himself and find relief from his suffering. Keep compassion alive during the whole time of listening. You have to be very concentrated while you listen. You have to focus on the practice of listening with all your attention, your whole being: your eyes, ears, body, and your mind.

If you just pretend to listen, and do not listen with one hundred percent of yourself, the other person will know it and will not find relief from his suffering.

If you know how to practice mindful breathing and can stay focused on the desire to help him find relief, then you will be able to sustain your compassion while listening.

(Thich Nhat Hanh)

24.09.2021

To love yourself

should be no

quiet affair, 

but a loud uprising.

(Nikita Gill)

23.09.2021

Sometimes your inner child

doesn’t want to hear:

"I am here, you are safe…".

Especially if you don’t mean it.

Sometimes your inner child

would rather hear:

"I don’t have the answer, 

I am confused too. 

But we are figuring this out together".

Radical honesty heals.

(Xavier Dagba)

22.09.2021

Softness is not weakness. 

It takes courage to stay delicate 

in a world this cruel. 

(Beau Taplin)

21.09.2021

When we come close to 

those things that break us down, 

we touch those things 

that also break us open. 

And in that breaking open, 

we uncover our true nature.

(Wayne Muller)

20.09.2021

When the body is remembering 

(even when it is going through anxiety 

about something that has happened 

and can never happen again) 

that is the moment to be super gentle 

with yourself in the here and now, 

no matter how long ago the memory is from, 

no matter how little sense it makes to you now, 

no matter if it doesn't make sense 

to anyone else either.

You are now, and always were, 

deserving of your love and 

compassion and care.

(Sarah Mariann Martland)

19.09.2021

You know what’s sexy? Authenticity. Those that have the strength and the courage to be true to themselves - to be who they are. Those that are honest, vulnerable, intimate, unique, bold, and real. Those who are brave enough to share a piece of themselves. The artists, the musicians, the authors, the poets, the creators, the rebels, the givers, and the lovers of the world. Those who approach life with sincerity, honesty, openness, and veracity. Those who send a daring and dazzling message of “I am who I am” and in doing so, give others permission to do the same. So here’s to the authentic souls who grace us with the gifts of their true selves. Here’s to the breathtaking, invigorating, beautiful, genuine, and true. Keep shining, gorgeous souls. Your authenticity is sexy.

(Creig Crippen)

18.09.2021

Harsh truth: 

your healing will bring out 

the emotional immaturity

of your parents.

(Dr. Nicole LePera)

17.09.2021

I like messy people; 

people who don’t fit in a box 

or stay between the lines, 

but whose integrity is greater 

than any rule book 

and whose loyalty 

is stronger than blood.

(Jim Wern)

16.09.2021

I offer you peace.

I offer you love.

I offer you friendship.

I see your beauty.

I hear your need.

I feel your feelings.

My wisdom flows from the Highest Source.

I salute that Source in you.

Let us work together for unity and love.

(Mahatma Gandhi)

15.09.2021

Sit in the darkness

if you want to feel better.

'Cause there is no other way

out of this mess.

Be still and feel until you can’t tell

where you begin and shadow ends.

It will scare you with depth and

spook you with glory.

Let it show you a new way, 

and a stronger, softer, more 

magical you.

(Tanya Markul)

14.09.2021

Common misconceptions about boundaries:

1. Believing they are to control others

2. Believing they are for the other person

    to obey you

3. Believing they are an ultimatum or threat

4. Believing people who have them

    are difficult

5. Believing people should just know

    how to treat you without you communicating

    what you need or want

These are just some, not all common misconceptions about setting boundaries.

A few other misconceptions are that they’re not possible to set with individuals with high narcissistic qualities and that is incorrect. 

With those individuals you need to strongly uphold what you’ve set by setting and resetting firmer ones AND IF THEY CONTINUE to disrespect, neglect or dismiss what you’ve set then the next firmer boundary is always to discontinue communication, block, delete, limit your exposure.

Boundaries are for you and about what YOU need and want. 

They’re communicated on behalf of yourself to respect yourself! 

Not everyone will be willing or capable of respecting them and that’s ok, then they’re not meant to be near and dear and have that access to you then.

Boundaries are not threats, manipulation or ultimatums. 

They’re not to control others as they do not remove ones free will choice to decide what they want to do for themselves.

Yes, obviously we set expectations for certain individuals holding them to a perceived standard and when they aren’t open or willing to meet that standard we get upset and want to control and fix them. 

This is where respecting your needs and wants has to far outweigh what others are choosing for their lives.

(Amy Fiedler)

13.09.2021

There’s a good chance 

you’re operating on a lie

someone told you about yourself.

How much of your negative self-view

is just an accumulation of 

other people’s projections?

(Dr. Vassilia Binensztok)

12.09.2021

I’m too busy dancing 

with my imagination

to even tip toe

with reality for a second.

(D. Antoinette Foy)

11.09.2021

Nothing ever goes away 

until it has taught us 

what we need to know. 

Even if we run a hundred miles an hour 

to the other side of the continent, 

we find the very same problem 

awaiting us when we arrive.

(Pema Chödrön)

10.09.2021

When you are dismissed for 

sharing your trauma, it’s not because 

they’re afraid of your story,

it’s because they’re afraid of theirs.

If you’re doing trauma work, you know the work we are doing becomes a lifestyle. 

We have hit rock bottom, or close to it, and are now learning to rebuild. 

With each new layer of self-discovery, we are finding the way our life operated, no longer works which is how we ended up with our feet dangling at rock bottom to begin with.⁣

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We are so vulnerable in this place. 

It is completely normal (and beautiful frankly) to want to be connected to the people you are most familiar with. 

Many, if not most, will experience resistance from those people as they share their trauma. 

If we have been part of a family, a group, or any type of culturally connected circle, then chances are your story is not unfamiliar to them. 

The difference though: You are choosing to address yours.⁣

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If your story threatens the life someone else has built to protect themselves from knowing their own trauma, not only will they rewound us by rejecting our story, but they will rearrange the story to fit their narrative so they can remain safe. 

Is their safe healthy? No. It’s denial. 

But, that is their choice and this should have no bearings on you continuing down your path.⁣

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The level of scapegoating and spiritual bypassing is staggering. 

This is where I become unapologetic. 

There is too much healing needed to stop, debate and try and convince someone where you are coming from. 

They’re not willing and this is where your story becomes about the energy you’re spending explaining yourself to them. 

So, please continue. Be gracious to them, but continue to pursue your wholeness with no apology to how it makes someone else feel. 

Their feelings are their responsibility and their lack of connection has no role in you being the best damn cycle breaker you can be.⁣

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Keep healing!

(Nate Postlethwait)

09.09.2021

be so committed

to your growth

you’re willing to say

no without guilt and

yes without fear.

(Spirit Daughter)

08.09.2021

May we change the systems creating

symptoms instead of pathologizing the

individuals carrying them.

May we be willing to have hard

conversations.

May we stop choosing the easy thing

over the right thing.

May we all do this with as much

compassion as possible.

(Lisa Olivera)

07.09.2021

Here is the test to find 

whether your mission on Earth 

is finished: 

if you're alive, it isn't.

(Richard Bach)

06.09.2021

Perhaps healing ourselves

isn’t just an act of self-care

but a humanitarian one.

(Claire Rowden)

05.09.2021

let’s stop playing the trauma olympics.

the shit you’ve been through 

that’s impacting you today? it matters.

it doesn’t matter if someone else

"had it worse". comparing yourself 

to others never helps you attend to

the parts of you that are dying to be seen.

noticed. held. loved.

we all have the capacity to help each other, 

but not if we neglect ourselves. 

not if we say "well that thing I went through

that’s gnawing at me daily wasn’t really 

that bad". not if we ignore the weight of 

our feelings as they quietly demand

to be felt.

(Emmy Marie)

04.09.2021

Value yourself.

The only people

who appreciate a doormat

are people with dirty shoes.

(Leo Buscaglia)

03.09.2021

Having compassion and empathy

for why someone behaves 

the way they do

based on their experiences,

never means you have to tolerate

the behavior or hold space for it.

You can absolutely have compassion

and set a boundary.

This is what it means to also

have compassion for yourself.

(Maryam Hasnaa)

02.09.2021

Touch rain.

Feel rivers.

Breathe in trees.

Eat fruit.

Soak in the warmth

of this sun

straight down

to your silent cells.

You are here.

Coax yourself into 

the light,

and let

your wanting body 

deeply love

the world.

(Victoria Erickson)

01.09.2021

I will tell you now why I am quite a happy and vibrant human being. Of course I have bad, dark moments and struggles like everyone, but after many years of processing and inner work, I feel at home in myself. I love myself.

So, are you ready for my “secret”? 

I ended any contact with my toxic parents.

I said NO.

I needed years to take that step, trying everything to find a way. Trying to communicate with mutual respect, to get through to them, to continue loving them.

“If only I could find the right words, if only I could reduce the intensity of my feelings, if only I could convince them to accept MY version of the story.”

But I couldn't. No chance. There was no one to speak to.

Just two hiding, terrified and furious little children, who developed into loveless adults and toxic parents: for themselves and for me. 

“But they had toxic childhoods themselves, I have to be compassionate with them. They gave their best.”

No, they didn't. And this realization was the key to my freedom, to my life. They didn't give their best. 

They chose the more comfortable way of not taking responsibility for their wounds, for their feelings, but instead simply passing them on energetically to the next generation, to the next innocent child, to me.

Suddenly I knew, that there was only one way to break this toxic blueprint after all these insane generations: 

I had to allow myself to FEEL.

I had to allow myself to EXPRESS my feelings.

I had to allow myself to LOVE myself.

I had to allow myself to REMEMBER who I am.

I had to allow myself to say NO to everything and everyone which kept me away from that.

Maybe this sounds simple, but it was not. I had moments of emotional release, where I thought I would die. 

It felt like jumping into a black hole. As if my body would collapse without any life-force left in it. It felt as if I could fill oceans with my tears. As if I could kill someone just with my screaming.

While going through all this, I tried to be the loving mother and father for my own terrified and furious inner child.

The mother and father which I would have deserved when I was a real child. The parents I always projected on my real parents.

Just an illusion.

But in myself, it wasn't an illusion. It was real. 

The unconditional love my parents never gave me was there, in the middle of my chest, in my heart.

And in this heart I could find forgiveness after a long time. 

A forgiveness more on the level of the soul, where everything makes sense, than on the level of the human being. 

I can see the beautiful divine essence of my parents, like in everyone; but I also see the ugly, destructive, and cold personalities they live through here on earth. 

I allow my inner child to feel the anger about what they did, and what they did not do. It was their choice. It was free will. I cannot rescue them. And I don't want to rescue them anymore. I let them go in peace, in clarity.

I know that one day, probably after many other lives, they will find their way back to their lovable, loving souls. 

Because they are love, they have just forgotten it.

I consider my parents as the catapult which brought me into this incarnation. They are not my true family. I chose them because I had to learn certain lessons, and they also wanted me to teach them certain lessons.

By saying NO to the unhealthy patterns of my parents I have been able to find my true family, my soul-family. In this family, love doesn't set conditions and shrinks, but it feels warm and expansive.

You wouldn't believe how much healthier, brighter and happier I am since I decided to protect myself radically from the poisonous energy of my parents.

I am more aware, more present, more grateful, more compassionate, more joyful, more loving.

It is such a societal taboo to say this, but it is the truth.

So many people believe they have to honor and love their parents unconditionally, simply repressing all the pain they have suffered. They pay such a high price for that: they sacrifice their own life. And the toxic cycle continues...

The earth is such a crazy place, because all these billions of terrified and furious inner children run around headless and heartless, searching and demanding unconditional love where it cannot be found. They glorify the parents with every cell in their bodies, because it hurts too much to face that they never loved unconditionally. Searching for this love then in relationships, jobs, drugs, alcohol, sports, sex, fun, distraction, TV, in all kinds of addiction.

But it cannot be found there. 

It is inside of you. Waiting for you. 

Only by loving yourself you can make the earth a better place.

(Verena, RWYA)