DAILY QUOTE
31.12.2021
For the one who is questioning
whether or not you lived up to
whatever external expectations
have been placed upon you this
year...
You are enough.
For the one who hasn't been able
to show up for your friends as
fully because of all you've had to
hold this year...
You are enough.
For the one who's body
looks different than it used to and the
society we live in makes you believe
you're somehow bad because of it...
You are enough.
For the one who's house is
currently a complete disaster, who
has way too much laundry to do,
who doesn't want anyone seeing
what things *actually* look like...
You are enough.
For the one who has had old
wounds revisit, old pains pop back
up, old tendencies resurface, and
old hurts feel extra tender...
You are enough.
For the one missing somebody
so much that the ache feels like it
will never let up, the light feels
like it will never return, the sense
of self lost to grief feels like it will
never come back again...
You are enough.
For the one with regrets,
the one who wishes you could take
back what you said,
the one with fear of what's next,
the one who feels totally lost,
the one with more needs than usual.
the one who wants more...
You are enough.
For the one who has had a much
better year than a lot of people
you know and is feeling guilty for
experiencing joy during a time
where many are experiencing
heightened pain...
You are enough.
For the one who feels like you
somehow let yourself down this
year, like you didn't do enough
or accomplish enough or have
enough experiences or big
moments to be proud of...
You are enough.
For the one feeling like something
is wrong with you for being messy.
for having ups and downs and
in-betweens, for not having it
all together, for being human...
You are enough.
(Lisa Olivera)
30.12.2021
THINGS I'M NO LONGER
APOLOGIZING FOR:
• My feelings.
• Having firm boundaries.
• Saying no to something I'm not interested in doing.
• Being emotional or crying.
• Not answering the phone when I can't
or don't feel like it.
• Needing to take a break.
• Asking for clarity when I don't understand.
• How other people behave.
• Changing and becoming better.
• Not agreeing with someone.
• Putting myself first. I can't be anything to anyone
if I am nothing to myself.
• Not settling for less than I deserve.
• Letting go when I need to.
• Healing at my own pace.
(Alexandra Elle)
29.12.2021
10 Ways To Detox That Have Nothing
To Do With Your Body
- Unfollow people on social media who
negatively impact you.
- Detox your email inbox by unsubscribing.
- Donate clothing you don't wear.
- Clean out expired products and things you don't
use from your bathroom + kitchen.
- Cancel subscription services you don't use.
- Organize your phone and delete apps + pictures.
- Organize your computer and delete documents and
software you don't use.
- Declutter your car.
- Organize your finances.
- Identify what you spent time on this year that you
don't like and take steps to discontinue it this year.
(Amanda E. White)
28.12.2021
I know this transformation is painful,
but you’re not falling apart;
you’re just falling into something different,
with a new capacity to be beautiful.
(William C. Hannan)
27.12.2021
Sensitive people
actually represent the
genuine needs and
desires of all people.
It's just that some people
who are not so sensitive,
were able to adapt in a
way where they were able
to disconnect from the
needs that weren't
getting met.
(Teal Swan)
26.12.2021
I'm sorry that when
you expressed
how much you're
struggling right now,
you were once again
met with
"Stop spreading
your negativity."
You're not being
negative because
you want to talk
about your feelings.
(Anne Carly)
25.12.2021
Treasure those
who uncover
the hidden riches
of your heart.
(John Mark Green)
24.12.2021
At this time of year, we’re bombarded with images
of perfect lives, which bear as little relation
to reality as tinsel does to gold.
If you’re lucky enough to be with the people
you love, warm and safe, with enough to eat,
I’m sure you feel as blessed as I do.
But if your life is currently full of difficulties;
if you aren’t where you want to be,
either literally or figuratively, remember that
extraordinary transformations are possible.
Everything changes. Nothing is forever.
Thinking back to my worst Christmas,
I found it hard to believe that my unhappiness
would pass. I was truly afraid of the future.
You never know what the future holds.
Astonishing reversals of fortune happen
every minute. So if you’re sad, or lonely,
or bereaved, or ill, separated from your loved ones
or in any other way suffering this Christmas,
I send you love and wish you luck and better times.
Millions of us have been where you are now.
Remember, Christmas Day is, in the end, just a day.
It isn’t a test or a scorecard of you or your life,
so be kind to yourself.
(J.K. Rowling)
23.12.2021
These next few days may contain difficulties and
a heaviness and a deep unending ache that feel
like they are weighing you down so hard that
forgotten might just become your home and
loneliness your name.
Remember your name.
Remember who you are.
Remember where you are.
Remember this body that is yours.
Remember you get to stay with yourself
through it all (and you get to distract yourself
from it all too, if that's what you need to do).
And remember this, too:
It is okay to grieve.
It is okay to feel joy.
It is okay to feel lonely.
It is okay to feel belonging (even and especially
to yourself).
It is okay to feel like none of this is what you
wanted or chose or asked for and it does not
make you any less grateful or deserving or
embracing of what you do have...
Both/all feelings and experiences can and often
do exist at once.
It is okay to feel the way trauma shatters,
to sense how anniversaries lurk ahead and within,
to see reminders of the worst things that ever
happened to you play on repeat in your mind
and to hold the loss of the people you are missing
deep inside your bones, even while others smile
and cheer and laugh all around you.
It is okay if you can smile and cheer and laugh
(real or false) with them.
It is okay if you can't.
Truly.
It does not make you bad or unworthy or
unlovable, it makes you human.
These next few days can be difficult enough
without feeling like you have to constantly
apologise for every feeling and experience and
each breath you take - good, bad or indifferent,
alone, with others or both, heavy, light or a
mixture.
You can give yourself permission (because yours
is the only authority you need to live your life)
to just be, here, now, in all of your glorious and
devastating, complex humanity.
As is.
It is enough.
You are enough.
Know this.
Remember this.
Remember your name.
Remember who you are.
Remember where you are.
Remember this body that is yours.
Remember you get to stay with yourself
through it all.
Remember you.
(Sarah Mariann Martland)
22.12.2021
Feeling the need to be busy all the
time is a trauma response and
fear-based distraction from what
you'd be forced to acknowledge
and feel if you slowed down.
It's part of why this season is so
hard for many people. Because
you're forced to slow down and sit
with the parts of you that have
been neglected all year.
All of those piled up emotions will
sneak up on you this season.
Take care of yourself and remember
you don't have to have it all resolved
by the 31st.
That's a false narrative
that steals your humanity
so abandon that idea and
just be gentle with yourself.
(Dr. Mariel Buqué)
21.12.2021
My beloved body,
Let me express my gratitude
for being able to trust my gut,
keeping my heart beating
while it was broken,
for healing even when
I didn’t treat you well.
In my darkest hours
you carry me.
Thank you!
(Tara Isis Gerris)
20.12.2021
Holiday wish list:
a calm heart
a clear mind
a peaceful soul
and love, lots of love.
(Spirit Daughter)
19.12.2021
10 notes for anyone putting yourself
out into the world in any way:
Not everyone will like you, like what
you do, or like how you do it. Luckily,
your job isn't to be liked by everyone;
it's to keep showing up in all the ways
that feel aligned, exciting, and true to
you, regardless of whether or not it
pleases everyone else.
It is vulnerable to let yourself be seen,
but the vulnerability of being seen will
almost always bring you closer to yourself
than the perceived safety of staying hidden.
Putting yourself out there means
you might fail in front of people, mess up
in public, get witnessed making a mistake,
and/or do something you later regret;
this doesn't mean you shouldn't
put yourself out there…
it means you should give yourself permission
to do so imperfectly and cultivate a willingness
to try again, over and over.
Maybe it won't all go wrong.
Maybe you won't fail.
Maybe it won't feel bad after all.
Maybe you won't embarrass yourself.
Maybe you won't regret it.
Maybe you won't wish you didn't do it.
Maybe it won't flop.
Maybe you won't wish you didn't.
You might wonder what people will think
of you, question whether or not
people will judge you, or fear the opinions
people will form about you.
The truth is that people will judge you.
People will form harsh opinions.
People will think all kinds of things about
you. Now what?
There is something beautiful about risking
the unknown in service of your dreams,
your desires, your longings, your calling,
your hope, your vision, and/or yourself -
about trusting you can withstand the discomfort
in order to practice believing in yourself.
The practice of putting yourself out there
in any way is itself what matters,
even more than the outcome of doing so.
It's the practice of it that slowly allows you
to believe you're capable, worthy,
and deserving of whatever
it is you're seeking.
You will not be for everyone.
Your work will not be for everyone.
Your art will not be for everyone.
Your temperament will not be for everyone.
Your gifts will not be for everyone.
Your presence will not be for everyone.
Your offering will not be for everyone.
The good thing? This doesn't mean
something is wrong with you -
it just means none of us are meant
to be for everyone.
It could go better than you anticipate.
It could be greater than you imagine.
It could be more than you think is possible.
It could be amazing.
It could feel incredible.
It could go well.
Leave room for what's possible more
than you leave room for what you fear.
Putting yourself out there is a gift to yourself,
to others, and to the world.
Thank you for not hiding.
Thank you for showing up.
Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for letting yourself be seen.
Thank you for blessing us with your presence.
Thank you for your offerings.
Thank you for your ideas, your wisdom, your art.
Thank you for your connection.
Thank you for being willing to get to
the other side of the discomfort.
Thank you for letting yourself be witnessed.
(Lisa Olivera)
18.12.2021
Even exceptionally powerful and passionate
connections require care and attention.
Chemistry might bring two people together,
but it is quiet, consistent, everyday effort
that makes a relationship truly remarkable.
(Beau Taplin)
17.12.2021
At a certain point we need to grow up;
we need to look inside ourselves
for our inner guidance.
There are things most human beings know;
they just don't want to know them.
They know deep down that certain things
in their lives are working or aren't working,
that certain parts of their lives are functional
and others are dysfunctional.
But sometimes, as human beings,
we don't want to know what's not convenient.
So we pretend not to know.
(Adyashanti)
16.12.2021
That’s really what grief has taught me.
That I can survive.
I used to be afraid that if I experienced grief
it would overcome me and I wouldn’t be able
to survive the flood of it, that if I actually felt it
I wouldn’t be able to get back up.
It’s taught me that I can feel it and
it won’t swallow me whole.
But we come from a culture where
we think people have to be strong.
I’m a big believer in being vulnerable,
open to grief. That is strength.
You can’t know joy unless
you know profound sadness.
They don’t exist without each other.
(Elisabeth Kubler-Ross)
15.12.2021
I am not looking to escape my darkness,
I am learning to love myself there.
(Rune Lazuli)
14.12.2021
HEALING
Your body is your soul’s best friend here on Earth.
The challenge is to learn to trust and follow its signals.
Whenever pain or another symptom arises, you can tell that something inside of you is out of balance.
Shamans believe that every illness eventually has to do with a disorder of our capacity for love.
You have an inner doctor, a wise medicine man or woman, who is in resonance with your highest truth, with your soul.
His messages transmit what you have to change in order to heal.
Each disease contains a unique healing code that only you can decipher.
Only you can give yourself the medicine you really and truly need.
Maybe you don’t set enough boundaries and don’t care for yourself, because you have forgotten your own worthiness.
So the body creates a cold to allow you some space and time for yourself, to force you to slow down.
Maybe you are not grounded but very distracted and focused on your monkey mind. So you stumble and break your foot.
That brings your attention back to the root chakra, back to Earth.
Maybe you cannot defend yourself against loveless and poisonous sentences from others, who treat you like a waste bin.
So, suddenly, you start hearing that constant buzzing called tinnitus in your ears.
It’s like a warning signal, a chance to start saying: “No, I don’t want to hear this anymore! Stop speaking with me like that!“ when someone hurts you with words.
Maybe you repress a lot of your emotions, trying to fight against your real feelings, always trying to maintain control at any price. You pay with the loss of your vitality, of your self-realization.
So your body reacts by allowing single cells to mutate and get angry: they grow uncontrollably and destroy the healthy cells.
Faced with this war called cancer on a cellular level, you can recognize your inner war against your soul and return to self-love and self-compassion.
Learning to express your feelings in a healthy, authentic way the cancer cells don’t have to do it for you in an unhealthy way anymore.
Healing must be regarded in a deeper sense, not only on the plain of the body, but, more importantly, on the plain of your soul.
True healing means to find the way back to your natural and overflowing ability to love, yourself and others.
Unfortunately, the conventional western medicine is focused only on the combating of symptoms. It is based on fear, not on love. That’s why sometimes you feel more miserable after visiting the doctor.
A disease isn’t meant as a punishment but always as an invitation to grow and remember who you are.
If we manage to embrace the hard shell of the disease, it offers us over time a pearl of sacredness, of divine grace in its inside.
I will never forget the story of a woman on her deathbed after years of suffering from severe illness, ready to pass away into the loving arms of the divine.
During her lifetime, she was a very embittered and hostile person; she didn’t love herself, and following from this, she also wasn’t able to love anyone else.
Each of her relationships was a tiring struggle, her two children refused any contact after so many hurtful experiences with her.
Faced with the inevitability of her imminent death, a profound transformation occurred inside of her after a period of intense resistance and victimhood.
Suddenly, she felt a deep realization of her true self, which had been hidden for so long behind her big ego in order to not feel her vulnerability and the wounds she had carried with her since childhood.
The disease and the pain let the walls around her heart come crashing down. Her heart chakra opened like a lotus flower, and she finally learned to love herself and others.
When she saw the white light coming closer at the moment of death, surrounded by her loved ones, she whispered, with a blissful smile on her exhausted but radiant face:
“I am healed.”
(Verena, RWYA)
13.12.2021
Magic is just science
that we don’t understand yet.
(Arthur C. Clarke)
12.12.2021
What if, instead of criticizing
and blaming yourself, you started
saying the sorts of things that
would help you find the strength
and energy to keep going?
Just the way you’d encourage someone
who was tired and scared and needed
a kind word. Shift to compassion.
You might be amazed at what you can do.
(Nanea Hoffman)
11.12.2021
My therapist shared a theory she had come across, and I liked it.
It held that before making your next journey in this life, your soul sits at a large, circular conference table and chooses the souls who are going to be a part of your life.
As for which particular people would be chosen, I figured they would be individuals from previous lives with whom there was still unfinished business.
(Melissa Gilbert)
10.12.2021
No force on earth
can stop the confidence
of a trauma survivor
who finally understands
it was not their fault.
Those moments where we connect
with the truth and finally understand
what we endured was because of
someone else’s wrong doing,
our confidence in that truth firmly
plants itself in a new foundation.
It will take time for other parts
to catch up and settle,
especially if we are taught
to blame ourselves.
But, trust the process that teaches you
to respect yourself and the price
you’ve paid for overcoming.
(Nate Postlethwait)
09.12.2021
What a shame it truly is -
that some of us have lived
our entire lives under the impression
that the love we have been searching for
was to be found, first and foremost,
in anyone but ourselves.
(Bianca Sparacino)
08.12.2021
When transcendence of our personal history
takes precedence over intimacy
with our personal history,
spiritual bypassing is inevitable.
To not be intimate with our past -
to not be deeply and thoroughly acquainted with
our conditioning and its originating factors -
keeps it undigested and unintegrated
and therefore very much present.
(Robert Augustus Masters)
07.12.2021
Put together all the existing families
and you have society.
It is as simple as that.
Whatever kind of training
took place in the individual family
will be reflected in the kind of society
that these families create.
(Virginia Satir)
06.12.2021
It has to hurt
if it’s to heal.
(The Neverending Story)
05.12.2021
Cheers to the people who see
our boundaries as self-respect
instead of seeing them as offensive.
Cheers to the people who allow us
to have our own path, even when
it differs from theirs.
Cheers to the people who let us
tell the truth without trying to
fix, change, or sugarcoat it.
Cheers to the people who don’t need
us to perform for their comfort.
Cheers to the people who remind us
of who we are when we forget.
Cheers to the people who show
care before judgment.
Cheers to the people who choose
to really listen to what we’re saying
and notice what we’re not saying.
Cheers to the people who can sit
with us in our joy and in our despair.
Cheers to the people who let us know
how not alone we are.
(Lisa Olivera)
04.12.2021
There is no greater agony than
bearing an untold story inside you.
(Maya Angelou)
03.12.2021
You might know this already, but there’s never a bad time to be reminded that we can’t change other people.
It will always be their work, their decision, and their intention that leads them to their change.
You can inspire others, but you can’t change them.
What person in your life have you been trying to change, trying to inspire to change, holding out hope for, etc?
Who is it? Is it a partner, a parent, a sibling, or a friend?
Just tune in here and name who it’s been for you.
Most of the time we want another to change because we do believe it will benefit them, but let’s tune into ourselves here for the purpose of this post and exploration.
“If they change, what I get is…”
Be with that.
What gets offered to you if that other person integrates change?
What relief do you feel?
What validation or affirmation might you receive?
What about the dynamic do you believe shifts, and why is that so important to you?
Reflect in this space.
Yes, we want people to change because it often benefits them, but we also want people to change because it tends to benefit us as well.
Maybe it’s relief for us, maybe it’s a witnessing of us that we’ve craved for so long, or maybe it’s having our pain finally understood.
Deep breath here.
Notice what it is for you, and notice how if you’re being asked to release trying to get another to change, you might also be releasing and letting go of the hope that you’ll get the relief in the way you thought, get witnessed in the way you’ve craved, and be understood in the way you hope for.
Ahh…grief.
If I release needing to control you I must begin (or continue) to grieve.
There is loss that shows up when we release.
Might you make a bit of room to feel into that loss?
(Vienna Pharaon)
02.12.2021
Keep me away from the wisdom
which does not cry,
the philosophy which does not laugh
and the greatness which
does not bow before children.
(Khalil Gibran)
01.12.2021
I want to make some things *very* clear.
If you ever get upset with anything I say or write, you’re in your ego.
One day your ego will vanish and you’ll never get upset again.
*I* never get upset!
If you feel any resistance or rejection towards what I’m doing or saying, you need to work on yourself to clear your negativity.
Only positive vibes welcome here.
I only emanate positive vibes!
If you feel any anger towards me, you’re not seeing or thinking clearly.
As long as you still get triggered, you’re not free yet (like me).
As long as you still feel fear, longing, desire, the illusion of your separate self hasn’t fully dissolved (like mine has).
If you still have any doubts, if you still question this teaching, or my understanding, you haven’t fully dropped all identification with the bodymind (like I’ve done).
If you still see a “person” here, a “self”, you are wallowing in pure ignorance!!! There is no person here and no “self” who would ever judge you!!
I am extremely nonjudgmental.
There’s really no such thing as suffering or trauma or depression, it’s all just a story in the ignorant human mind.
Once you see through all stories, you will no longer suffer.
I never suffer anymore!!
And everything I’ve just said
is pure unadulterated disembodied
spiritual bypassy bullshit!!
(But I’d never judge 🤣🤣🤣).
Anyways - I’ve returned from the dead to burn it all down to the ground, with love and humour and playfulness.
You’re welcome. 😁
Watch this space. Namaste! 🔥🔥🔥
(Jeff Foster)
